I decided a couple of weeks ago that I should cast a wider net and get myself set up on another dating site. The only sites I have heard anyone talk about lately are OK Cupid and Match so decided to add Match back to my portfolio of dating sites. (I have been off Match for over year.)
Within an hour, I regretted this decision. Unfortunately, it was after I forked over $150 for 6 months.
Now that I have experienced OK Cupid, I definitely prefer it over Match, and here are the many reasons why.
1. The user interface on Match is horrible. People’s pictures show up squished in the search. The front page is busy and distracting and I have to look at advertisements even though I PAID for my membership.
I pulled some screen shots so you can compare the two. Not sure if you can fully get the gist with these, but you can click on them to see the experience full size. Match is just an eye sore.
2. The profile layout on Match is distracting so you are more focused on the section headers than the actual content. There are the ugly yellow highlights that show you the things you have in common like “coffee/conversation” and “travel”. There are cheesy icons displayed when you look at someones profile like a sneaker that says next to it “you both like running”. Woo hoo!
Here are some profile samples (hopefully they won’t sue me!). See how OK Cupid is just much cooler?
3. Match lists whether you have ever been married before right at the top of the profile. (On OK Cupid it is one of a thousand questions you can answer but you don’t have to) When I first joined OK Cupid, I wished that information was right up front, because I would be very wary of a 44 year old that has not been married . But now that I am a 44 year old woman who has never been married, I realize this does not play to my advantage.
5. Match requires an email subject when you send a message. I never gave this much thought before, but I love how on OK Cupid, I can just write a quick note and not try to come up with something catchy in an email subject. “Hey” or “Hi there” is annoying, but coming up with something witty in the subject AND in the email is just too hard. I have tried “Pretend I put something witty here”. I didn’t get a reply.
6. When you make an update to your Match profile, the text and the photos have to be approved before they show up (each separately.) It took almost 12 hours before my photos appeared on my profile.
7. You can hide your profile which means you can click on profiles without people seeing you clicked on them, but if you change your profile, it seems to automatically become unhidden when any part of it is approved. I was not aware of this and went on a favoriting rampage (OK only 4 guys I found suitable) while I was waiting for approval and they all saw that I favorited them and looked at my profile before all of my super cute photos were posted. I was pissed. UPDATE: I have since learned that you can’t really look at people without them knowing because when you un-hide yourself, you become visible in people’s visitor list, always. This had nothing to do with the profile un-hiding itself. This feature change is not cool.
8. I think there are a lot more people on Match, which was what I was looking for in “casting a wider net,” but that also means there are more not so great profiles to wade through. It is hard to stay positive while wading through the “not so great” profiles. Ugh.
9. There is one plus to Match over OK Cupid. Match emails you the whole email message someone sends you. OK Cupid only sends the first sentence or so, so you HAVE to log in to OK Cupid read the message. This is easy since you can log in on your phone from anywhere, but then the sender knows for sure you have read it and not emailed them back.
Match has definitely made me appreciate OK Cupid more. Here are some things I realized that I really like about OK Cupid.
- The free form questions on OK Cupid are more interesting so they make it easier to express who you are beyond just one paragraph.
- OK Cupid has hundreds of random multiple choice questions you can answer and see people’s responses and whether you match. These tell you basic things about people that are not in their profile (it looks like they are adding some of those on Match). They also drive a match % which displays for every person on the site is actually, kind of helpful.
- OK Cupid shows you whether someone will “reply often” or “very selectively” so you have an idea of whether this person blows everyone off, or just you.
- All of the artists, and teachers, and creative types on OK Cupid (because it is free) make it much more interesting and it feels cooler. Match seems to have a lot more average guys from the suburbs to wade through.
- The site is free, but I can pay an extra $15/month to view profiles invisibly. Love this feature and I don’t have to remember to hide my profile when I want to browse (that is such a pain in the but!)
Overall, Match just feels really old school compared to OK Cupid. OK Cupid is a really stupid site name, but despite that, it is definitely a better experience. As good as an online dating experience can be, I guess. Since the same company owns them both, I guess they make money either way. Extra money from me!